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Do you find ‘me’ time, that hour or so when you get to choose what you want to do? Or are you putting your job, family and friends first, making it tricky for you to take a break, gather your thoughts and put things into perspective? It is too easy to forget to make time for yourself, so let’s look at changing that pattern now.
It is a habit
Making time for yourself is a habit and unless you have already created this habit, it may take a bit of practice until it feels totally natural. The first thing you need to do is shed any negative belief that you may have held to-date about ‘me’ time. Maybe you were always told that you were selfish if you focused on your needs and then you struggled with feelings of guilt afterwards? Sarah Berry says, ‘You will lose your spark, your enthusiasm and your energy if you allow others to run your life. You must focus on your needs if you are to enjoy the quality of your life. It is essential that you start to nurture yourself fully and as you do so, you will feel happier and more energised.’
To operate effectively at work, you need a full emotional and mental tank. It would be great if your job could fulfil most of your needs but it doesn’t always work that way. The workplace is a ‘holding tank’ where lots of people are trying to do the same thing which is to fill up daily and get their needs met. However, needs rub against each other and not everyone will manage to satisfy their needs. So, it is a good idea to become aware of what your needs are and to set boundaries around yourself in order to protect yourself. Then you can balance your outside ‘me time’ with your work to ensure that most, if not all, of your needs get met. Let’s have a quick look at what categories your current needs fall into. Circle five needs that you feel you need to work on.
Your Key Needs